What makes good leadership?
I actually started writing this for another blog. But I’ve since decided it would be better here. Plus, I don’t think I’ll be writing on my other blog anymore. The other blog is boring, unfocused, not fun, and honestly, not very therapeutic. Also, it’s hard to share truthfully when you are judged without having all the facts. (I don’t know that this blog is fun but I do hope the therapy works and it goes in that direction.) But here I am free to do and say what I want. It’s one reason this blog is anonymous. I don’t have to worry who is reading it or what someone might read into it.
So back to my question. What makes good leadership?
The old blog of mine was a Christian blog. But this question isn’t just for the church but then again, it is very much for the church. So, chuchy people, if your first answer is theology, I’m going to disagree with you. Your first answer should be soteriology (i.e. what you believe about Salvation – by the grace of God, through Christ Alone, not by works). But that’s still not the answer I’m looking for.
The mark of a good leader – easy: Do they love? Do they genuinely care for you and those around you? Without love we are called a noisy gong. No one will care what you have to say if you don’t have love. Sometimes love doesn’t always say what we want but when you feel loved, you’re okay with that. When someone comes alongside of you and just loves you, you know everything is going to be okay.
Love doesn’t just hand you everything you need or want. Love will care enough to teach you so you can meet your needs. We all need help and there’s nothing wrong with that. We’ve all heard love makes the world go round. It does. Love is patient and kind and doesn’t seek to harm or seek its own way.
Here’s something that really bothers me and it’s a huge mark against the church. Leadership who is only interest in themselves. It’s prideful. No one is perfect. But when what they do damages another person or persons, we should hold them accountable. Recently a previous church leader, who has a lot of people that look up to him, thought it would be funny to not only send inappropriate things to a married woman, he made inappropriate comments to her too – lewd and suggestive. All in the name of joking and trying to help her feel better about herself. How on earth does this make someone feel better? Yes, please, make them feel like an object, not a person with feelings. This was the loving thing to do. And if you call yourself a Christian, I’m sure Christ was pleased. (Maybe a little sarcasm from me. It just slips out sometimes.)
So, how does what this person did help his friend’s struggling marriage? AND she’s running around telling anyone who will listen. How is that helping his testimony or character?
The woman was hurt, the marriage was hurt, those who now know were hurt. How is this loving in any way?
This person is no longer in church leadership and hasn’t been in a few years. In my opinion, there’s a big HALLELUJAH! This man should never be in leadership again.
This man is also married and says his marriage has never been better. But… wait for it… he’s married to a narcissist. She didn’t see anything wrong with what he did and even thought it was funny.
A side note: their marriage is so great because the only thing he’s now capable of saying is “yes, dear.” She too was once in leadership and I’m thankful she no longer is as well. Everything I’ve ever known her to do was about her. The funny thing is my happy narcissist pegged from the beginning. Shocking (more sarcasm).
As I was reading through this post and proofing it, sadly, you can apply this politics. Church leaders and politicians – sheesh!
Not all church leaders are bad. There are a lot who truly love and follow the Lord. And I do believe there are a few good politicians out there too.
So what makes a good leader? Or what makes for good leadership? LOVE of others.